Communication is an essential skill for all and is the key to sharing good relations with family and friends. It helps us express, our emotions, how we feel about situations and others.
Having said that, children learn to talk by listening. As we grow, listening becomes more important not just in conversations but more in understanding others, their side of the story and improve clarity.
As humans, we functionally hear using our ears, but we have the capability of listening with all are senses – That is when we truly practice Active Listening.
I recently invited my nephew and niece over lunch. They are of age 12, 15 years respectively. I told them to get a pen and paper and narrated them a picture and asked them to draw it. After they had drawn it, we discussed how close was their picture to the original one – based on what I shared as instructions.
Then, I reversed the role and asked them to narrate a picture the picture to me while I drew. After my drawing, we discussed how close my drawing was to their explanation.
We did some beautiful reflection using the following questions:
We tabulated our discussion in a table as below, citing behaviours which helped or limited us in both the situations:
What we really did was explore and identify the Dos and Don’ts of Active Listening.
To take our lovely discussion ahead and help them explore this skill more. I read to them the following:
Active listening is a way of listening…
Active Listening requires three A’s: Attitude, Attention, and Adjustment.
I wanted a final experience to help my niece and nephew apply the new learnings, so I used this final case study:
A close friend has recently shifted to another city, which indeed is a major change for him – new school, new people, unknown place, new society etc.
He is finding it difficult to deal with so many changes.
He connects with you on a video call.
In the conversation:
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